Hey guys whatsup? Well me am kicking and I really hope you guys are too. Weeks ago I was on air on unilorin 89.3fm with babysasa, we talked about the topic can you go back to your ex? *scoffs* I know a lot of you will be screaming nooooooo!!!  God forbid*smh*. But remember that you were happy with the person before and quote me

‘if you are not as happy in your new relationship as you were with your ex then my dear you need to go back to your ex’

It is expedient to know, that love is a very strong emotion and it is stronger than whatever your ex may have done back then, therefore it can forgive and forget those things no matter how horrible it is. I know that what is going through you mind right now is ‘am not inlove with my ex joor *yimu* I don’t need that bastard in my life *yimu x9999999999999*. Here is the deal , when you read this article and five of the  ways I explained below don’t apply to you then you are not in love with you ex anymore but if more than five applies to you then padi you need to saddle ur sokoto and go after your love *whistling Byran Adam’s please forgive me*. Here is/are the ish(s)

• YOU KEEP THRASHING HIM OR HER ON EM SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES :- I am also guilty of this, I remember when my first love left me, I was so bitter towards her that I used facebook as a medium to thrash her. I called her names like b***h , mumu, ode, traitor blah blah blah *God!!! I was a big fool then *smh 4 me* Deep inside me I knew I still felt something for her, but my bitterness stopped me from admitting that which I felt back then. My dear don’t forget that poem and song you wrote for her/him inspired by the whole breakup saga, which by now have your friends inwardly groaning every time you share it with them *smh*
• YOU STILL KEEP YOUR EX STUFFS :- That shirt you still stare at, that necklace she left that is still inside your cupboard. If you have been planning to return it for months now *yimu* you are deceiving yourself because you don’t need to plan to return anything if you really want to return them *lol*. My guess is that you are holding unto those stuffs with the hope that you will find a final excuse to meet him/her again.
• PUTTING IN EXTRA EFFORT WHENEVER THERE IS A POSSIBILITY OF RUNNING INTO YOUR EX :- if whenever there is a possibility of you running into your ex, you take extra care in dressing up *smh* Extra perfume, nice outfit  etc. *lol*. Or whenever you run into him/her, you become that vivacious and extraordinary popular person he/she made a mistake of letting go and you cannot stop revealing  what a completely amazing time you have been having since you guys broke up. You are without doubt, still in their clutches.
• YOU SHOW NO INTEREST IN OTHER GUYS/GIRLS :-While partners complain of the wandering gaze of their lovers, you *even as a free agent* – cannot be bothered to respond to clear signals of interest from members of the opposite sex. This is as sure a sign as any that your ex continues to be the center of your world and that you cannot bear to think of getting hooked with someone else.
• IF YOU FOUND A NEW LOVE FOR ADELE’S SONGS :- someone like you, day dreamer, don’t you remember are examples of the Adele’s songs am talking about *LMPAO*
• YOU GO EXTRA MILES JUST TO BUMP INTO YOUR EX :- When you know when and where your ex is likely to be found at certain times in a day. Or you find yourself shopping for groceries in the same place, frequented by your ex or having an espresso where you know he/she usually pops in for a bite. Seriously, there really is no harm in running into an ex once in a while, however strategically planning your movements in a day to bring it about is like taking things up a notch.
• EVERYTHING REMINDS YOU OF YOUR EX :- if you see your ex in all you do and you cannot do anything without reminiscing on your ex. I remember one of my friends who will ask me this annoying question  ‘ Is Yvonne going to like what am doing right now’, we went shopping on time like that and he saw a very nice blue tie and said ‘awww this tie is nice but Yvonne hates color blue’ I was so mad at him that I screamed ‘John STFU this girl does not give a shit about you anymore it is time to move on or stop talking about her to me’ the people in the store were just staring at us *smh for us*. If while listening to a song, all you can remember is you and your ex dancing to the song, the way he throws you up, kisses you and make out with you*covering face*. what is worse is while making out or even having sex if all you imagine is your ex doing those things to you then you are still in love. If all these still play on your mind then you need to go back to your love or move on.
• YOU ARE ALWAYS COMPARING YOUR  EX :-If every date is turning into a mental exercise, where you are busy totaling the plus and minus points of your present partner as compared to your ex, it is time to take stock of what is going on with you. You might not only measure your date on looks, status, wits and chemistry against your ex but even imagine how your ex would have responded to this particular situation or that particular joke. My dear better go get the love of your life and stop this psychosis and hysteria
• YOU SPY ON YOU EX :- If you snoop  around on his/her facebook page, bbm pm updates, her timeline on twitter just to see if someone left a flirtatious message. I know of a guy who even went to the extent of checking his ex-sisters, friends and families just to catch a glimpse if there is a new person in his ex‘s life.
• YOU CONTINUE TO HOLD ONTO MEMORIES:- You are keenly aware of the box that lies in the right bottom corner of your closet, which contains various mementos of your relationship. They not only include hand-written letters from your ex, photos from vacations that you went on together, cards on your birthday but even the funny drawing on a table napkin that your ex made while waiting in that fancy restaurant and movie tickets from the time when you first kissed in a dark theater. This is a major sign.
• A PART OF YOU STILL WISH YOU GUYS GET BACK TOGETHER :- You may think nobody is hearing that little wish deep inside of you, but trust me when I say this. The inner you is listening and am telling you at this moment to GO FOR IT.

LIFE IS SHORT GUYS AND HAPPINESS IS GERMANE. MY DEAR IF FIVE OF THIS APPLIES TO YOU THEN YOU BETTER GO BACK TO YOUR EX AND WORK OUT YOUR DIFFERENCES BECAUSE LOVE CONQUERS ALL MY FRIEND.